My husband Chris is an extremely loving and kind man. My husband tells me daily, in fact, often several times each day, how much he loves me. I feel very loved, cherished and treasured. However, if there’s anything lacking I suppose it’s a sense of romance. I mean, being told daily how much someone loves you is romantic, but I’d love to be swept off my feet every now and then. Wouldn’t you?
Chris cooks dinner occasionally, he’ll be nice and water the garden when I’m not feeling well. He’ll even rub my legs or back when they are sore. That’s nice and I’m sure many women don’t get that kind of treatment regularly.
Still, I think I need to perhaps print out a few of these romantic ideas for him. Give him a hint. I’d be thrilled if I woke up one morning and found a romantic note on the pillow beside me.
One of the other romantic ideas that I find appealing is “Ask your wife on a romantic date”. I’d love that. We do go out for dinner from time to time, but we often have friends or family around. It’s rarely just the two of us. I think it would be really quite sweet if he planned a romantic evening at one of my favorite restaurants.
We actually live fairly close to Niagara falls – the lovely Canadian side of course. It’s only about a 1.5 hour drive away. We gone there for day trips, but never to stay overnight. Considering that we never even had a honeymoon because he was just finishing his college course when we got married and I’d just started a new job, going to Niagara Falls for a very late honeymoon or perhaps a wedding anniversary would be an ideal romantic get away for us.
I wonder how I can get some of these ideas into his head without spelling it out for him? Perhaps, you my readers, could drop by his blog and leave hints for him? Hmmm?
Whether he ever does something exceedingly romantic or not – it’s ok. I love him and he loves me and that makes life pretty darn good.
It can be so hard for men to be romantic. 🙂 I love my husband like crazy, though he needs a nudge once in a while too.
You’re on a real roll today, Tricia. I have 13 messages from you today in my Reader.
Romantic gestures are always pleasant, but it can be tough for certain ones to take the initiative.
I proposed to my wife at the falls. Cliches are awesome.
I’d LOVE to know this! i have the mos UNROMANTIC man in the whole world I think. At least yours tells you that he loves you 🙂 I’ve given up but if you find the “cure”, please tell me, I’d love to know!
I like to leave notes for my wife on the steering wheel of her car before she takes off for work, or on the bathroom mirror. Usually arranging for a lunch or dinner date after work.
Or I’ll take her to one of her favorite movies that she knows I absolutely hate.
Sent her vacation tickets to Hawaii for the two of us (brochures and all), arrived at her office and surprised her. She got to open them up in front of her coworkers, then had to ask her boss for some vacation time.
Tony Lee you sound like quite the romantic. You’re wife is a lucky girl!
Many husbands today don’t put their interest in such things especially my husband. i would like to experience this too.
My husband used to be romantic until we had kids. I want him to be romantic again, but I also realize that I am not nearly as romantic as I used to be as well. It is kind of hard to be romantic while changing diapers all day, but I know it is possible. I suggest you start with small romantic gestures for your husband. Hopefully, he will get it and return the favor. 😉
Oh boy please tell me if you figure it out. I feel the same way. In fact, I am up at 2 am because of it. My husband is the same, I know I am very loved and he takes very good care of me and our little baby but we n e v e r go out just the two of us… if i want that to happen I have to annoy him with requests for months and then it’s not the same, because he didn’t think of it himself. I have been super depressed lately over the fact that we never took our honeymoon yet either and now with a house and a baby i don’t feel like i will EVEr get one. I know its a stupid thing to feel depressed over but honestly i’m crying over it. how stupid of us not to take one when we had the chance. i hate that it upsets me so much and I don’t want to make him feel guilty but I wish he would be romantic and plan one… or at least bring it up, i am sure he doesn’t really care too much about going away… he’s been to a lot of places when he was younger…. anyways if it ended up working for you let me know… i know you wrote this a while ago but I just found it now. thanks for writing what i feel! lol
I think a romantic getaway is a great idea… sometimes you need to get out of your usual routine to relax and really nurture your love. You’ll see a different side of your man for sure!
i think your are lucky at least he rubs ur back for u and cook supper from time to time my husband doesn’t ever do anything when he is off work on weekends he just play video games all day. annd hang out with all his family and friends. it gets annoying sometimes. please let me know if u found a way to make your husband romantic i would love to know.
Please tell me u found a cure for this… Am in the same boat. I am 7 months pregnant now and I am depressed that my husband is way too far from being romantic but he is the best though, as a man, as a friend and as everything else for me. I soooo wanted us to get out for a short trip since we found out and it DOESN’T seem to happen, worst of all he is giving excuses that we didn’t have time 🙂 Again if you have a cure for this please do share.
Thanks
This is the first time i have ever posted on a blog, but just a little info about me im 26 in a long distance relationship with my Polish girlfriend we have a 4 year old daughter together. I am Currently in the UK while she is home in Poland with the baby. She works Hard Studies harder and raises our Child at the same time. She is the most loving woman i have ever met, and i truly feel i am so lucky to have her. We get to spend time together as a family every so often when i get to travel and vice versa. We were seperated for 4 years due too circumstances, but both tried to play the part as if we were strong putting up walls and putting on masks, neither of us wanted to show weakness by making the first step, but secretly we were both pining for eachother for 4 long years. If i have learned anything dont expect these kind of things make the first move, dont wait around and waste time like we did we missed out on 4 years together and im sure the relevance is applied here too for this situation. If you want to know what the answer is to getting him to do these kind of things, then its just right in front of you ladies and gentlemen reading this, Make the first move and take that step for the both of you, in the same sense you show respect to get it back, and that you have to start talking with someone to have a conversation, im sure if you did a few romantic things for your husbands they will return the favour and you will reap the fruits of your labour. Just ask yourselfs when was the last time you did something truly romantic for him? maybe he feels the same way.
Just take that step, you have nothing too lose and remember you dont give to recieve, but in this case you more than likely will recieve some romance you all deserve back in return…
Just my input let me know if it works out for you,
and i wish all of you the best with this.
From not so sunny Wales
— Dan 🙂
Thanks for sharing!
There are few issues here;
1.A lot of men are not normally romantic in nature.
2. Romance means different things to different people.
3.Sow the seeds of romance first and the harvest will catch up with you.
4.Ask for what you want and how you want it in a non-threatening manner.
5. Do not give up in showing your man what romance is in little ways and as these build up you can plantime and an opportunity for your big get away!